Well, life is life-y and I am ready for some coasting…what about you?

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I am raising TWO 2E teens and hooo-eeee, I AM TYY-YERT.

If you don’t know what 2E is, it’s essentially Gifted AND _______.

Gifted and Anxious. Gifted and ASD, Gifted and ADHD…

It’s a lot.

And it’s really mostly a lot because our culture is still rigid around how kids are allowed to show up (or not).

Don’t get me wrong, my kids (all kids) need to and can learn skills that help them and everyone around them…I don’t expect the world to bend to them at every turn.

But…whoosh. Figuring this all out is tiring, especially as they get older.

Filling out the Valentine’s love notes this year was harder. Not because I love my kids any less…I love them more than ever. It’s just that, between the climate of the country and my city (Washington DC), as well as working through the 2E stuff, well, my brain has been swimming. It has been harder and harder for me to land on simplicity, to see what is right in front of me.

It’s easy for our children to become projects, right?

It’s also easy for us to become projects.

Chronically improving and self-helping and learning and, and, and…
It’s kind of too much.

Like, what if we kind of phoned it in this March? What if we didn’t optimize our children or parenting or lives and, instead, we just floated along…doing a decent C+ job (I know even reading that just panicked my Type A friends).

I am writing this note to myself, by the way. As my teacher, Karen Maezen Miller said once: everything she writes and says, she is saying to and for herself.

I want to coast this March.

I want to have a healthy case of the fuck-its.

And I know that even thinking this way comes with immense privilege. I know it. I know that being able to have a choice of coasting or not is a privilege. And still, I need to choose it…

Because when I say, “let’s coast this March,” I mean that I need to put down the facade that I have control over most things in my life. That I need to put down the “fix-it” mentality with myself and my family. That I need to gently place down worries and fears that I am projecting so far out into the future, it is absurd.

AI tells me that “coasting” means “to progress or succeed without much effort or difficulty,” and that’s what I want. Because all of my efforts and difficulties aren’t bringing all that much progress or succession. Very Febraury vibes, amiright?

I know I still will do a laundry-list of things, I am just going to try to loosen my grip on it all. The effort of less effort.

What does coasting look like for you? What would it look like if you could do it, like, right now? Start a chat with me, I want to know!

Maybe you are reading this and thinking, “F*CK YOU, Meghan. I am in a tailspin and my kids are a wreck and I cannot stop fighting with my partner about them and I am so tired and worried and angry, I cannot see straight. I CANNOT COAST.”

I hear you. I really hear you. And I want to be able to support you, so!

I said I would give y’all a nice discount this February, here you go (I am also giving you my favorite musicians, art shows, makeup, and underwear!)